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Writer's pictureEllie Azerad

Chanukah: The Minimalist's Guide to Navigating Gift-Giving

Introduction:

It's Rosh Chodesh Kislev, and the anticipation of Chanukah is upon us. Amidst the ongoing war, our tefillos fervently plead for its end, extending our hopes for shalom, not only to Israel but throughout the world. We daven that this month be a vessel for open miracles and profound yeshuos for Klal Yisroel.


Despite the turbulence, as Yidden, we look toward the future with hope and resilience, placing our trust in Hashem.


In the midst of these challenging times, the celebration of chaggim becomes a testament to Klal Yisroel's unwavering resilience. Acknowledging the sensitivity of our circumstances, it may seem delicate to delve into discussions about gifts. However, there is much significance in upholding minhagim and fulfilling our obligation of persumai nissim – publicizing the miracles that Hashem showers upon us. As we navigate these trying times and await the miracles of "ba'yamim ha'hem, b'zman ha zeh," our traditions become a source of strength and unity, reminding us of the enduring spirit of the Jewish People.


As a professional organizer and home management course instructor, I'm frequently approached for advice on toys, gifts, and playroom organization.

Many women reach out to me, seeking advice on how to handle family and friends in giving gifts and what kind of gifts are suitable for families striving for more organization. Because of my work, I've gleaned insights into some of the best gift ideas, which I'll share below.


Communication Is Key: Initiate open communication with your family and friends regarding your desire to simplify and minimize. Explain your intention to embrace a more minimalist and organized lifestyle and kindly request their support in this endeavor. They will usually understand and appreciate your honesty.


Memories Over Gifts: Reflect on your cherished childhood memories, and you'll likely find that they center around experiences rather than material possessions. This can guide your approach to gift-giving for your own children. Prioritize experiences and quality time over random toys that may lose their appeal quickly.


Good Gift Ideas for Children:

  1. Good Quality Favorites: These toys have stood the test of time, and children love playing with them. Based on a survey I conducted, here are the top results: (with the top 3 in bold)

    • Magna tiles

    • Blocks (like kapla)

    • Lego and Playmobil

    • Cars

    • Dress-up items

    • Dolls

    • Animals

    • Bikes


Consumables:


  • Crayons

  • Coloring books

  • Art supplies

  • Art projects

  • Art kits


  1. Educational Gifts:

    • Science and art projects

    • World map

    • Telescope

    • Magnifying glass

    • Microscope

    • Books

    • Metal detector

    • Magazine subscription

    • Globe



  1. The Gift of Time:

    • Taking them to a new playground

    • Playing a game together

    • Doing a special craft

    • Going on a hike, cooking, or baking together

    • Visiting the zoo

    • Having a picnic

    • Exploring a new playground

    • Going on a hotel stay

    • Engaging in activities like bowling, mini golf, rollerblading, or ice skating

    • Going out to eat

    • Painting together

Spending quality time with your children not only strengthens your bond but also fosters their emotional well-being and sense of security.


  1. Things Your Child Needs or Wants: Consider items that are useful or desired by your child, such as:

    • A good-quality expensive coat

    • A special water bottle

    • Fancy pens

    • Art supplies

    • Jewelry

    • Outdoor toy equipment like bikes, scooters, and rollerblades

    • A room makeover

    • A new backpack

    • A cool gadget

    • An extra pair of shoes your child wants

    • Expensive wardrobe items

    • Experiences

    • A special book

    • Memberships to gyms, classes, and clubs

    • A family vacation

    • Subscription to children's magazines

    • A recipe book with ingredients for the child to cook or bake something

    • Activities like bowling, skating, bike rentals, surfing, or ziplining

    • A craft with art supplies

    • An annual pass to a museum or zoo

    • A gift certificate to a restaurant or ice cream shop your child likes

By gifting items your child genuinely needs or desires, you minimize unnecessary clutter while ensuring they receive something meaningful and useful.


Not Good Gift Ideas:

  • Close-ended toys or one-time-use toys often provide limited engagement and can quickly lose their appeal. They may not encourage open-ended play or stimulate a child's imagination and creativity. Instead, opt for toys that allow for versatility and multiple uses, promoting longer-lasting enjoyment and learning experiences.

  • Toys with small and easy-to-lose parts can pose safety risks, especially for younger children who might put small objects in their mouths. It's important to consider age-appropriate toys that have been tested for safety and don't pose a choking hazard.

  • Gifts with excessive glitter or items that are hard to clean, like Perla beads, slime, or paint, may create unnecessary mess and frustration for both children and parents. Opting for gifts that are easy to clean or have minimal mess potential can make the playtime experience more enjoyable for everyone involved.

  • Live animals as gifts require a great deal of responsibility and commitment, as they are living beings that need proper care and attention. It's essential to carefully consider whether the recipient is ready and able to take on the responsibility of caring for a pet before gifting one.

  • Noisy toys may not be the best choice as gifts because they can quickly become annoying and disruptive. Constant loud sounds can be overwhelming, leading to a chaotic environment and making it challenging to concentrate or engage in other activities. Additionally, they often lack educational value and can limit a child's creativity. Choosing toys that promote interactive, imaginative play without excessive noise can provide more enjoyable and harmonious playtime experiences.

  • Items with strong odors can be unpleasant and overpowering, making them less desirable for children and their families. Choosing gifts with neutral or mild scents, or focusing on other sensory experiences that are more universally enjoyable, can be a better choice.

By being mindful of these not-so-good gift ideas, you can select presents that are more engaging, safe, and enjoyable for kids. Opt for toys that promote critical thinking, creativity, and open-ended play, while considering factors such as safety, cleanliness, and sensory experiences.


GIVEAWAY BOX: Have a permanent spot in your home where you keep a giveaway box. Show it to your children and explain where items are going (to a Gemach, children in need etc.). This will also likely help your children want to give away things to people in need.


CONCLUSION:

May the illuminating lights of Chanukah dispel even the darkest corners, ushering in massive miracles and brighter days for Klal Yisroel.


-Ellie



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